Who amongst us has never faced a difficult person at work? Probably no one. No matter where we go, we will face people who are negative, people who oppose our ideas or people who simply do not like us⦠![]()
Recently I read a book on variety of tantrums displayed by people and how it would create insurmountable challenges at workā¦
We are in a colorful world. Our acquaintances, friends, co-workers are of different hues & colors. We donāt choose whom we work with but we have to accompany even those who are severely an impediment to a peaceful work life. Here are the fewā¦.
Faces of difficult people:
THE TANK: Confrontational, pointed, pushy & aggressive behavior āThe Tank needs to be right and will fight over people to prove a point. They are arrogant and will attack not just the idea or project, but personally as well. These people will read something else, fidget in their chair and will make it very clear to everyone this topic is a waste of time.
THE SNIPER: Snipers use innuendoes, under-their-breath remarks and teasing to undermine others. Through rude comments, biting sarcasm or a well-timed roll of the eyes, making you foolish is the sniperās specialty.
THE GRENADE: After a brief period of calm, the grenade explodes into unfocused ranting & raving about things that have nothing to do with the present circumstances. These tantrums are-filled with anger and rage which seems barely under control.
THE KNOW-IT-ALL -Seldom in doubt, this variety has a low tolerance for correction & contradiction. If something goes wrong, however, the know-it-all will speak with the same authority. He/she has the tendency to override the opinion of others and have a superior attitude. They are of two types:
Bulldozers- Bulldozers are usually experts who don’t know how to work/deal with other people. They feel strongly that the more they know, the better off they will be. As a result, the ideas and knowledge of others are deemed irrelevant.
Balloons-Balloons, like Bulldozers, want respect and admiration from others based on their expertise, but they are faking — they aren’t really experts at all. They are often unaware that they are talking about something they don’t know much about.
THE COMPLAINER- Complainers find discrepancy in everything. And reading between the complaints, these people are usually suggesting that someone, probably you, should do something about them. They are skilled at stating problems in such an accusatory manner that it is hard to separate genuine problems from complaints.
THE YES PERSON-In order to avoid conflicts & confrontations, these people say āyesā all the time without thinking thru’. They react to the latest demands forgetting their prior commitments.
The want to be liked and accepted by everyone, so to achieve this they are outgoing, sociable and very personable. However, the danger here is they will agree with you about one thing and then agree with the next person whose ideas are contrary to yours.
THE MAY BE PERSON āIn a moment of decision, this person procrastinates in the hope of getting something better. Sadly, with most decisions, there comes a point when it is too late, too lopsided & certainly not the best option. The indecisive people do not want to disappoint others. He or she is overly concerned with othersā personal feelings, yet has very high performance standards.
THE NOTHING PERSON -A withdrawn man. No verbal feedback. No non-verbal feedback. They are quiet and unresponsive and itās difficult to understand how they are processing directives. Most likely they would grunt or clam up at any situation.
The biggest problem in dealing with Clams is we don’t know what the silence or lack of response means.
THE NO PERSON – More deadly to morale than a speeding bullet, more powerful than hope, able to defeat big ideas with a single syllable. They spread negativity and hopelessness towards any activity without trying to improve.
We can definitely not control the behavior of these people but can control our responses thereby maneuvering the critical situationā¦.
Madhurima Datta ā¦..










